The best index to a person’s character is
- how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and
- how he treats people who can’t fight back
–Abigail Van Buren
I first learned about the meaning of the word “mensch” from Guy Kawasaki in his book, “The Art of the Start”. Leo Rosten, the Yiddish maven and author of The Joys of Yiddish, defines mensch this way:
Someone to admire and emulate, someone of noble character. The key to being “a real mensch†is nothing less than character, rectitude, dignity, a sense of what is right, responsible, decorous.
Menschdom in a nutshell (see Guy Kawasaki’s blog post for more):
- Help people who cannot help you. A mensch helps people who cannot ever return the favor. He doesn’t care if the recipient is rich, famous, or powerful. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t help rich, famous, or powerful people (indeed, they may need the most help), but you shouldn’t help only rich, famous, and powerful people.
- Help without the expectation of return. A mensch helps people without the expectation of return–at least in this life. What’s the payoff? Not that there has to be a payoff, but the payoff is the pure satisfaction of helping others. Nothing more, nothing less.
- Help many people. Menschdom is a numbers game: you should help many people, so you don’t hide your generosity under a bushel. (Of course, not even a mensch can help everyone. To try to do so would mean failing to help anyone.)
- Do the right thing the right way. A mensch always does the right thing the right way. She would never cop an attitude like, “We’re not as bad as Enron.†There is a bright, clear line between right and wrong, and a mensch never crosses that line.
- Pay back society. A mensch realizes that he’s blessed. For example, entrepreneurs are blessed with vision and passion plus the ability to recruit, raise money, and change the world. These blessings come with the obligation to pay back society. The baseline is that we owe something to society–we’re not a doing a favor by paying back society.
As competitive as I am in almost everything I do, the fact remains that not everything in life is a zero sum game where someone has to lose in order for you to win.
The Art of the Start, by Guy Kawasaki:
